Today, I saw a quote online: “I am a plain and simple person, seeing mountains as mountains, seeing the sea as the sea, seeing flowers as flowers. But when I see you, the clouds start to surge, the river tides rise, the tiny tentacles of insects scratch the itch of the whole world. You don’t need to speak, and I, along with everything in the world, will rush towards you.”
Feelings between people are never love at first sight. It starts from finding someone attractive, then feeling good enough to continue, and finally realizing that she is the one I have been looking for all along.
From the first meeting to committing for a lifetime, decisions are not made in a snap but through time, accumulation of emotions, and experiencing various things, always guided by the unwavering choice and favoritism of the other person.
1. At the first meeting, if you are attractive, I want to get close to you.
When Alex first saw Lily, he felt “comfortable.” Lily may not be stunningly beautiful, but she exuded a comforting presence. Alex started pursuing Lily, chatting with her every day, showing attention, offering umbrellas, delivering packages, inviting her for meals. Over time, Alex’s attention to detail moved Lily, and they got together.
Initial attraction for men often stems from a woman’s first impression, while women are drawn to men’s attention to details. The saying “Love is won and lost in the details” holds true, as details are one of the most effective tools to capture a woman’s heart.
Men are often initially attracted by appearances and find it hard to resist beautiful women. They treat them differently, being attentive, going on dates, giving small gifts, and romantic gestures consistently.
2. After becoming familiar, you are the one I want to be with despite weighing the pros and cons.
Tina and Chris dated for five years, experiencing constant quarrels. They continuously adjusted and compromised, making efforts to get along. Once, due to family reasons, Tina incurred a debt without telling Chris. When Chris found out accidentally, he was angry but didn’t leave Tina. Instead, he educated her seriously and together they found a way to repay the debt.
Caring and concern in a relationship are basic responsibilities for a boyfriend and are not enough to prove one’s importance. It’s crucial to see where you stand in his considerations after something happens. Even after weighing the pros and cons, a man will still choose to stay with you and help you, showing that his feelings for you are deep.
To sustain a relationship that began with physical attraction, it’s essential to let each other discover their strengths during the honeymoon phase. Make the man curious about you; the more he knows, the more attractive he finds you, and he will continue to treat you well.
Remember, love is not built in a day and does not disappear overnight.
Eileen Chang once said: “If there is only one bowl of porridge left in the future, you should have it first. After you finish, I will lick the bowl clean.” You will never be a second choice in his world; you will always come first. He would rather endure discomfort than see you suffer a bit.
This kind of love can be called true love, where the man’s feelings for you go beyond mere infatuation to favoritism and care.
3. Habits form, and you become my favorite and exception.
Habit does not mean settling; it means that in his world, you are his favorite and exception. It may sound magical, but when you experience it, you will feel fortunate.
No matter how messy your current situation is, I still consider you my favorite and exception. I am willing to weather all storms, resist all pressures just to protect you.
Modern views on love are odd; some are reluctant to show true feelings, doubt the existence of true love, or take pride in being “rascals” and harm innocent people with their own past hurts.
I used to love this saying: “No matter how old you are, always believe in fairy tale heroes and magic.” Relationships are a two-way street; if you don’t make any real effort, why would you expect someone to love you wholeheartedly and treat you well?
In love, men are like children, exhibiting behaviors different from their usual selves. When you see these actions resulting from these three psychological changes in the person around you, don’t hesitate! Boldly express your love and affection. Don’t wait for regrets and sighs; love never waits for anyone.