There’s a netizen who left a message saying:
“There’s always someone in this world who is your thought, your warmth. Even if they’re not close by, just thinking of them makes you feel at peace, feel grounded, and feel like you have a foundation. Even the air around you becomes more stable.”
When I read this, I felt like I was back in my student days, when I had a crush on someone and felt anxious to see them.
Now that I’ve grown up, I’ve realized that adult emotions often get trapped in intimate contact, rather than being as simple and pure as they used to be.
As we grow older, we feel that it’s hard to find someone who can finish our sentences, someone who can pamper us to the heavens.
If we do find someone, we should cherish them.
After growing up, we need to be careful with our words, especially in emotional relationships. We never know what’s true and what’s false in what others say.
Sometimes adult emotions get trapped in intimate contact, losing the innocence of our youth, and we always feel like we need to get what we want.
Physical Contact Can Become a Habit
The adult world isn’t as simple as we imagine. Some people live a 9-to-5 life, while others live from one meal to the next.
Maybe we’re happy because our work is going well, or maybe we’re depressed because we got fired by our boss.
In the adult world, we can never predict what tomorrow will bring, and when our hearts become cold, we need someone’s warm heart to comfort us.
Mr. Liu said:
“I’m very grateful to my partner. Although I didn’t love her that much when we got married, after all these years, whenever I encounter setbacks, she gives me a warm hug. It’s because of that hug that I found my sense of belonging, my own harbor…”
Maybe after experiencing life’s ups and downs, we’ll realize that the warmth someone gives us is invaluable. Maybe we don’t particularly like someone, but they can make us fall into their trap, simply because of their sincerity and warmth.
When we’re lost, the other person’s hug is our encouragement; when we’re struggling outside, their hug is our comfort and love.
Maybe we didn’t love someone at first, but as time passes, we discover that they’re indeed valuable.
Maybe they’re not the first person we notice, but they become the one we choose and won’t regret.
Some Men Use Intimate Contact to Win Over a Woman
“A gentle breeze can bring a storm.”
Some men will also think of a woman constantly, hoping she’ll have feelings for them.
Many men and women think that using intimate contact is the way to win someone over. For example, when two people have just started dating, the man might try to hold the woman’s hand, trying to get close to her.
It’s easy to call someone “honey,” but it’s hard to be with someone for a lifetime; it’s easy to hold hands, but it’s hard to be together for a lifetime. Saying “I love you” is easy, but it’s hard to be faithful to one person for the rest of your life. Love isn’t a fleeting feeling; it’s a decision to be together for a lifetime.
When a man likes a woman, he often does so because of a fleeting feeling, and even before they’re together, he wants to get close to her.
Women Should Be Careful Not to Fall into Intimate Contact Too Quickly
There are many women who are very innocent and pure, but after being with a man for a while, they change.
It’s because when women are with men, men will use intimate contact to get close to them, slowly breaking down the woman’s principles and bottom line. Many women fall into this trap.
I have a friend who is very conservative and said, “I’m a very conservative person, and I hope to only live with my partner after we’re married.”
But after they started dating, her boyfriend was very touchy-feely, and they ended up living together before getting married.
Women should be careful not to fall into intimate contact too quickly. When a man makes a move, women should know how to refuse, or they’ll eventually fall into the trap.
Adult Emotions Are No Longer Pure
Adult emotions are no longer as pure as they used to be, unlike the simple love stories we read in fairy tales.
Gu Mang said:
“The two most fortunate things in my life are: one, that time has finally consumed my love for you; and two, that one day, I met you.”
Adult emotions are about give-and-take. We always think that when we’re good to someone, we should get something in return; otherwise, it’s not worth it.
Many people in relationships think that they’re not getting anything in return, so the relationship will eventually fade away.
Emotions are no longer as pure as they used to be. As we grow older, we’ll always remember the innocence of our youth and the simplicity of our student days.
However, some people still keep their innocence, growing up and learning many things, but not wanting to be bad people. Many people in relationships like to have intimate contact, especially men. Men often do this to get close to a woman. The adult world is no longer simple, and as women, we need to protect ourselves, and as men, we need to have our own bottom line.
Bai Juyi said:
“I wish to be a pair of birds flying together in the sky, and a pair of trees with intertwined branches on the earth.”
Bai Juyi’s poem reveals his longing for love. There are many people who are very emotional, and there are many people who are very unemotional.
What we can do is to be a sincere person who treats others with kindness, and hopefully, we’ll meet someone who’s worthy of us.
Although adult emotions involve give-and-take, and sometimes we get trapped in intimate contact, we need to have our own bottom line. Being selfish also needs to have its own bottom line.