Ru Yu once said, “You can’t decide who shows up in your life, and you can’t stop someone from leaving.”

It’s often said that men aren’t bad, but women don’t love them. However, in reality, a woman needs to be fully prepared to prevent a man from changing his heart. As long as she does, a man will spoil her rotten.

Mimi is 32 years old now and has been married to her husband for ten years. When they got married, her in-laws didn’t approve of their relationship.

Because Mimi’s family was from a rural area, and her husband’s family was wealthy, Mimi faced many difficulties from her mother-in-law. Even recently, her mother-in-law blamed Mimi for not knowing how to take care of the family.

Mimi knew that if she didn’t have any skills, she wouldn’t be respected by her mother-in-law. So, even after getting married, Mimi never stopped pursuing her career. She believed that only by having a career could she stand firm in her husband’s family.

After getting married, Mimi’s career took off, and she became her husband’s partner. This made her husband love her even more.

Now, after many years of marriage, even though her mother-in-law might give her a hard time, her husband always stands up for her. Mimi feels that as long as her husband loves her, she doesn’t need to worry about her mother-in-law.

In reality, conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are inevitable. However, smart women know how to win their husbands’ hearts. Only foolish women would try to confront them head-on.

Whether in love or marriage, as long as you remember these few points, you won’t have to worry about a man changing his mind.

Don’t Sacrifice Your Career

Hayao Miyazaki once said, “Because of you, I want to become a better person.”

Many women are career-oriented before they get married. It’s not true that women’s IQs drop to zero when they fall in love.

Many women prioritize their partners after falling in love and might even sacrifice their careers for them. This kind of love is actually the most foolish for women.

As a woman, you must remember that you should never sacrifice your career. If a man truly loves you, he won’t want to hurt you. If a man doesn’t love you, no matter how much you sacrifice, it’s all in vain.

For a woman, having a career gives her confidence. Without a career, a woman won’t gain a man’s respect. Although men might say they’ll take care of you, few can actually do it. Women who give up their careers for love are foolish.

When you don’t know how to love yourself, no one will love you. This world only has one person you can count on—yourself. When you put your hopes in someone else, you’ll only be disappointed.

A career is crucial for a woman. When others can’t give you a sense of security, your career is your only security.

We can buy what we like, and we can travel wherever we want. This is a woman’s core competitiveness. Never sacrifice yourself for someone else, because in the end, no one will remember your good deeds.

Learn to Improve Yourself

Guo Degang said, “It’s better to chase the wind than wait for it to come to you. The process of chasing is the meaning of life.”

What is the most lasting thing for a woman? Different people will have different answers. In reality, a woman’s beauty will eventually fade, but her wisdom will always exist.

Women who know how to improve themselves are the happiest. They live a transparent life, knowing what they want, and they take their lives seriously.

For a woman, learning is the lowest-cost investment. Only when you know how to learn can your life be filled with various wonders.

Women who know how to improve themselves are not willing to fall behind. They won’t be eliminated by the times. When facing relationships, they will be more rational and won’t be blinded by love.

Many times, women lose themselves because they love someone too much. What you can’t get is often the best. The more you care about someone, the cheaper you become in their eyes.

Only when you know how to love yourself will you have more people loving you. Many women give up too much after getting married, but they don’t realize that the more they give up, the more they’ll get hurt.

When a woman knows how to improve herself, her charm will increase. Always remember: “If you bloom, the gentle breeze will come; if you shine, the world will arrange itself.”

Many women lack a sense of security in love. They often ask repeatedly whether a man still loves them. However, as a woman, you don’t need to worry about whether a man loves you every day.

Only when you’ve experienced the world can you understand the truth about love. The right person isn’t someone you need to desperately pursue. When you’re excellent, men will naturally be drawn to you.