We’ve known many basic principles since we were kids, such as, being greedy will ultimately lead to loss. Emotional betrayal is no exception.
Many people start an affair thinking they’re getting a good deal, but ultimately, it might lead to a broken marriage, separated families, and a ruined reputation…
Many people say, “I don’t care!”
Really, don’t care? Maybe it’s just bravado. If you truly don’t care, then what’s the point of living? Isn’t that like throwing away a watermelon and picking up a sesame seed?
A marriage and family are invaluable to one’s life, and can’t be compared to the fleeting pleasure of an extramarital affair. Those who don’t understand this are short-sighted, and might think they’re being pragmatic, but they’ll eventually pay the price, whether it’s when their loved ones abandon them or when they’re left alone in old age.
In reality, there are few people who truly care about us, aside from our parents and children, and maybe our spouse. They’re the ones who would sacrifice themselves for us. But we need to appreciate them, and not take them for granted.
Some people might encounter such a person, but still choose to betray them. They’re like someone who’s blessed with good fortune but doesn’t appreciate it, and instead, throws it away.
Don’t think that those who betray others don’t care about their marriage and family; they do, but they care more about their own desires. They think they can have their cake and eat it too.
However, they often overestimate themselves. Before they betray their partner, they might be cherished, but after the betrayal, their partner might view them as worthless, and their happy marriage might be ruined.
Don’t think that those who betray others won’t regret it; they usually do, but they just won’t admit it. They’ve chosen their path, and they’ll have to walk it to the end.
In the process of betraying, they ignore the consequences and get caught up in the excitement of the affair. They think they can get away with it, just like a thief who thinks they won’t get caught. But when they finally get caught, they’ll realize their mistake, and it’ll be too late.
The biggest consequence of betrayal is divorce. So, some people say, “I’m not afraid of divorce, so I don’t care.”
But think about it: if you lose someone who truly loves you, what’s the gain? If you still think, “I’m happy with my choice!” then you’re just fooling yourself, like someone who chooses a fake product over a genuine one.
In reality, many people who betray their emotions originally wanted to be a good partner and parent. I believe that people are born good, but they might not be able to resist temptation. They might have resisted 99 times, but failed the 100th time, like a monk who breaks their vows.
It’s a feeling of complete defeat, and it’s a common phenomenon in life. When you’re making progress, you’re cautious, but when you let your guard down, you’ll make mistake after mistake.
That’s why many people change completely after they betray their partner. They think there’s no point in turning back, so they just keep making mistakes.
Life is like that—you take one wrong step, and then you keep making mistakes.
But, fortunately, most people will still have their rational moments, and they’ll realize their mistakes. They might want to turn back, but they’re held back by the thought that it’s too late.
That’s not true. Recognizing your mistakes and changing your ways is a completely different story from stubbornly persisting in your mistakes. Recognizing your mistakes is a good quality, while persisting in them is the biggest harm to yourself.
So, ask yourself: is what I’m doing right? Do I feel guilty? Do I want to turn back?
If the answer is yes, then stop everything, and turn back. The saying goes, “The sea of suffering has no bounds, but turning back is the shore.”