If your marriage is unhappy, then your life is probably not very happy either.

Marriage is a close bond in life, accompanying us for a large part of our lives and affecting many things, from our daily emotions to our hopes for the future.

When faced with an unhappy marriage and wanting to reduce your own suffering, you only have two choices: end the marriage and seek happiness elsewhere, or treat the marriage as a partnership beyond emotions.

However, these choices are not easy for ordinary people to make.

Divorce is difficult, letting go of emotions is also hard, and even if you manage to do so, living in a relationship without emotions can be tiring. If you have to face an emotionless person every day and cooperate with them, it can be exhausting.

Yet, many people find themselves trapped in such an unhappy and unbreakable marriage.

So, what should you do in this situation and how should you understand your current predicament?

First, accept reality.

When life pushes us into a difficult and helpless situation, it’s important to face it calmly, whether it’s due to fate or our own limitations. Being sincere in facing unexpected challenges in life helps avoid inner conflicts.

The sooner you accept reality, the sooner you can move forward to the next stage of your life. Some people keep digging themselves into a deeper hole by not moving forward due to their inner demons.

For every experience in life, summarize briefly, then move on. This is the way of enlightenment.

Therefore, in an unhappy marriage, accept the reality, acknowledge that the other person may not cherish you, and stop dwelling on the past or fantasizing about a better future.

Next, comfort yourself.

In an unhappy marriage, there is not only pain but also anxiety, insecurity, and restlessness. People desire stability in life, but if the marriage is unhappy and you don’t know how to adjust, you will be filled with anxiety.

Many people in an unhappy marriage rush to solve the problem, hoping for a happy marriage or hastily divorcing without rational thinking. When faced with an unhappy marriage and feeling helpless, it’s essential to comfort yourself and be patient.

Remember, nothing is permanent, and every problem is temporary. After accepting this, you will learn to comfort yourself and believe that you will eventually overcome all obstacles.

Relationship issues, especially in marriage, are unique in two ways:

1. It’s okay to set aside problems because emotions are not a matter of survival. Learning to set aside issues is a form of self-discipline and a way to grow.

2. Dealing with relationship issues is primarily a psychological challenge. It’s about stabilizing your emotions in an unhappy marriage and growing from the experience.

When faced with an unhappy marriage, it’s okay to set it aside, avoid rushing decisions, or expecting quick happiness. Believe that your pain is temporary, and the problem will eventually be resolved. Once you stabilize yourself, focus on improving yourself and pleasing yourself.