Someone once said, “Love is a personal matter. I love you, and that’s my own business, which has nothing to do with you.” But how can that be possible? Who can claim to love someone without pursuing a future together? That’s not true love.

True love is about thinking about walking together into the future. True love is not just about making promises and declarations; it’s about two people making a commitment to each other, willing to spend their lives together.

In Zweig’s “Letter from an Unknown Woman,” the girl fell deeply in love with her neighbor, Mr. R, at the age of 13.

She was obsessed with everything about him, even the door handles he touched and the cigarette butts he threw away. Anything that bore his scent, she was willing to kiss.

The girl saw Mr. R as her everything, but ridiculously, when she stood in front of him, he just saw her as one of the many women he had encountered.

Young love often idealizes, and the girl gave up her life of luxury and the love of a young talent, even having a child with Mr. R out of wedlock.

She always hoped that Mr. R would recognize her as the little girl who lived next door, but he never did, even though she loved him humbly.

Every year on Mr. R’s birthday, she would send him a bouquet of white roses, but he never asked who sent them.

“I love you, you’re my everything, and you don’t even know!” If she could let go of her obsession and marry a good man, her life would unfold beautifully. But she took the opposite path because of her lowly love.

Later, her child died, and she fell ill, writing a letter to Mr. R before she died, telling him the whole story.

But sadly, she was too vague in Mr. R’s memory, leaving him with only a hint of regret and no more.

Lowly love is hard to cherish. Loving someone again cannot be done in a humble manner.

True love is the collision of two souls, the resonance of two minds, not a one-person show.

Those who humble themselves in love will hardly bloom beautifully.

Eileen Chang, a talented woman, didn’t escape this curse. She wrote about love, but in her feelings for Hu Lan Cheng, she was humble to the dust.

She wrote on a photo she sent to Hu Lan Cheng: “When I saw him, I became very low, low to the dust. But I was happy in my heart, and flowers bloomed from the dust.” However, Zhang Ailing saw Hu Lan Cheng as her destiny, entrusting her life to him. But Hu Lan Cheng spent her hard-earned money on other women, betraying her.

Even when they divorced, Zhang Ailing still sent him 300,000 yuan, but he used her hard-earned money on other women.

In relationships, it’s hard to say that the more you give, the more you’ll get in return.

Unequal love is hard to last. Like flowers that bloom in the dust, they may be beautiful, but they’re hard to cherish. Who knows, he might trample them without a care.

In “Letter from an Unknown Woman,” the girl humbly said: “As long as you call me, I’ll come, even from the grave, and I’ll follow you.” But Mr. R never knew who she was.

Her short life was all about him, but in the end, it was just a one-person show.

A man who doesn’t have you in his heart, no matter how hard you try to please him, will ultimately be a waste of time. And such feelings are not love, just one-sided infatuation.

True love is about walking hand in hand through life, not just a fleeting romance.

The result of humility is only hurt and regret.

A friend has been deeply in love with a man since sophomore year. She played multiple roles in his life, but he never acknowledged her as his “girlfriend.”

He said, “What’s the big deal about adding a ‘girl’ in front of ‘friend’?” But he never understood how important that one word was to her.

From sophomore year to now, six years have passed. For this love, my friend has humbled herself, washing his clothes and cooking for him, but he only thinks of her when he’s unhappy.

He never thinks of her when he’s happy, and she’s always torn between leaving him and staying.

Those trapped in love often think they can move the other person someday, but they don’t understand that feelings can be ruthless.

Mutual love is the only way to add points to love; one-sided giving will only lead to pain.

If you can’t get a response from the other person, you’ll only hurt yourself. The more you give, the harder it is to escape, and you’ll fall into a vicious cycle.

As “Reply 1988” says, “Love isn’t about giving because you have something, but about wanting to give because you can’t help it.”

Someone who truly cares about you won’t wait for you to give them something; they’ll be eager to give you their love, making you feel needed, loved, and cared for.

They won’t let you wander in uncertainty or make you feel lost and helpless because of love. Their heart will always be in tune with yours, giving you a sense of security in the relationship.

Actually, you’re very clear in your heart whether someone loves you or not.

You’re just overestimating your importance in their heart and underestimating your own value.

If someone doesn’t love you, you don’t need them that much. When you’re hesitant in love, it’s time to let go.

Don’t make things difficult for yourself. Cut your losses and don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you. He might not love you, so what? Stop, take a moment to think, and ask yourself.

No one is that important. The person who truly loves you won’t make you try so hard to please them.

If they really love you, they’ll like you no matter what you’re like.

If someone doesn’t have you in their heart, don’t waste your time. It’s better to part ways and live your own lives.