The relationship between a couple is actually very delicate. Although two people live together and their feelings are very good, there are still some details that need attention. Once these details are touched, trouble will arise.

No matter how good the couple’s feelings are, they shouldn’t meddle with these things, because these small details can easily lead to trouble.

Don’t Ask to See Your Partner’s Phone

I remember a friend joking with me, saying that not looking at your partner’s phone is like living in a peaceful world, but once you look, it’s like a storm breaks out.

It’s not that there’s something shameful in their phone. It’s just that everyone has their own privacy and things they don’t want others to know. When you ask to see their phone, they’ll be on guard, thinking you want to find something.

So, they’ll feel like you don’t trust them, and that they have no status, being monitored all the time, with no privacy.

Everyone has things they don’t want others to know. My friend’s husband works at a listed company and is very busy. One time, he was caught playing games at work and got criticized by his leader.

That night, he was very depressed, and my friend asked him what was wrong. He told her about the criticism, but she was worried and wanted to know what happened.

That night, after he fell asleep, my friend secretly looked at his phone and saw the leader’s criticism. When her husband woke up and saw her, he was furious, shouting, “You saw it, you’re satisfied now, you don’t trust me, and you still want to sneak a peek!”

My friend didn’t know why this happened, and she had never seen her husband so angry. There were no secrets in his phone, but when someone else looks, it feels like being naked.

So, even if the couple’s feelings are good, they shouldn’t randomly look at each other’s phones, and should give each other some personal space.

Don’t Ask to See Your Partner’s Wallet

Many people say that after getting married, they put their money together, save together, and spend together. That’s true. It’s a common goal, a big goal, and it’s necessary to put the money together. However, the wallet might have some spare change. There’s no need to ask to see that.

If you ask to see your partner’s wallet, you’re trying to know how much they spent, and you want to know all their expenses. This will definitely lead to a fight.

It’s like a guy might want to have a drink with his friends, and a girl might want to have afternoon tea with her friends. If they have to report all their expenses, it’s like they’re too petty.

There should be one person in charge of the big money, and the others can have their own spare change. Don’t be too meticulous about it.

Don’t Ask Your Partner to Spend Time with Your Family, Especially During Work Hours

Have you realized that time is the most precious thing? You can’t buy it with money.

Sometimes, people think that after getting married, everything is shared, and the two people become one. But that’s not true. No matter how good the couple’s feelings are, they shouldn’t ask their partner to spend time with their family, especially during work hours.

Firstly, it’s a bit too much to ask for time. Secondly, asking them to spend time with your family is like adding fuel to the fire.

Think about it, why do you want them to spend time with your family? Have you ever spent time with their family? Although it’s said that love is all-encompassing, it’s based on mutual effort. If you’re the only one making demands, you’ll only get it once or twice, and others can’t keep giving.

Moreover, everyone is busy making a living, and work is the way to achieve that. When you ask your partner to spend their work time with your family, you’re basically ruining their life. Who would do that for love?

Some things might seem insignificant, but they can easily touch a nerve. So, it’s better not to ask, lest we lose big things because of small ones, and unnecessary conflicts arise, adding trouble to an otherwise happy relationship.