Unhappy marriage is like hell, a lifetime of conflicts and unrest. On the contrary, finding a suitable spouse leads to harmony and endless happiness.
Marriage is like a second chance at life for women. Marrying right brings love, while a wrong choice leads to a living hell.
Parents’ attitudes and behaviors subconsciously influence their children. It’s hard to find a compatible partner from families with different values. Avoid marrying men from these four types of families.
Families with Male Supremacy
Boys raised in male-dominant families often feel superior and neglect their wives’ feelings. While it’s natural for men to care about their reputation, doing so at the expense of their wives is selfish and shallow.
Moreover, these families are often unwelcoming to their daughters-in-law. They believe conflicts between couples are the wife’s fault. Without a son, the blame falls on the wife.
For example, Wenwen’s cousin faced such a situation. Her husband, the only son, was pampered by the family since childhood.
Initially, the flaws were not apparent, but after marriage, his arrogance and bad temper surfaced. Despite years of enduring, her cousin faced pressure to have three children due to her in-laws’ desire for grandchildren. This led to her suffering from depression.
Families with Overbearing and Overindulgent In-Laws
From birth, individuals are unique and should be nurtured, not controlled. Boys raised in such families may seem obedient and accomplished to outsiders but lack the chance to learn from mistakes, becoming “mommy’s boys” in the long run.
As the Bible says, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.” Without independence from parents, how can one grow? Unprepared individuals struggle to shoulder family responsibilities.
Poor Families with Many Children
No parent wishes their daughter to marry into poverty. Even if a boy improves his circumstances, past family issues persist. With many siblings, peaceful family life becomes unlikely.
In financially strained families, favoritism is common, leading to resentment among siblings. While siblings should support each other, post-marriage responsibilities strain relationships, causing resentment.
Families with Unhealthy Values
Proper education is the best form of love parents can provide. Children mirror their parents’ behaviors, and a dysfunctional upbringing often results in tainted character.
Gany was fortunate to break off a relationship on time. Her boyfriend’s family had a gambling habit and lacked respect for her. Realizing the family’s influence on his siblings’ failed marriages, she ended the relationship.
Parents who neglect values and education ruin their children’s futures. While exceptions exist, it’s crucial to protect daughters from risky marriages.
Daughters deserve nurturing, guidance in youth, freedom in adolescence, and support in adulthood. Parents hope for daughters to marry honorable men who cherish and prioritize them. Until the right match appears, patience is key. Parents must assure their daughters of deserving the best marriage and to proudly stay single rather than settle.