After the appearance of a “third party,” the first thing you need to do is analyze:
If you’re not married, you might be able to break up easily, because you don’t have a family to consider. But if you’re married and this happens, choosing not to divorce or break up implies condoning the other person’s infidelity and allowing them to have two relationships.
However, for many women, the next one may not be better!
At this time, you need to make a decision, “to go or to stay”?
When facing this question, you must be honest with yourself and follow your feelings. Ask yourself: Do you love him? If yes, then in the face of what he has done, do you choose to give up or to salvage the relationship?
If you decide to salvage the relationship, then the following will be your challenge:
- Identify Your Advantages
Your emotional foundation, economic status, sex life, children, and friends are all areas of intersection. The more overlaps there are, the easier it is to salvage the relationship. First, identify the resources and advantages you possess and seek help from them.
- Analyze the Opponent
What kind of person is the opponent? A naive young girl or a fierce older woman? Gentle and kind or picky and gossipy? Knowing your opponent is important, and you need to plan based on her.
- Analyze Your Partner
What kind of person is your partner? Flexible or stubborn? Likes and dislikes? Vulnerabilities?
- Self-reflection
The lonely feeling of one person, the fault of two, when a relationship breaks down, there must be a reason. At home, are you disheveled, with a tired face and no glow, or do you look radiant inside and outside? When was the last time you bought new clothes? When was the last time you put on makeup? Has your belly been getting bigger? If your partner sees you like this, it’s natural for them to find a new partner.
The core is to find the trigger for the relationship change, use your new changes to stimulate them, defeat her in terms of value, and use children, social circle, and finances to restrict him, forcing her to retreat.
There are two points that need to be remembered: money and children are the opponent’s weak spots.
- For Family and Yourself
When you seek help from a marriage-saving expert, listen to their advice on how to present yourself gracefully and beautifully, an image that supports the whole family and stabilizes the household. You also need to manage the family’s finances and give the children a lot of love to strengthen your bond.
- Firm Stance, Calm Attitude
Don’t be unreasonable. Let them know that you know about the other person. Tell them to think carefully about the consequences, and that you’re ready for divorce. This is being firm. If you’re worried about being too tough, then change your appearance and dress to become more attractive, take care of the children, strengthen the relationship, and please the other person’s parents, uniting in the same battle, and approach from all sides to slowly win them back. This is being flexible.
- Inject Some Freshness into the Relationship
If you feel bored in the relationship, it’s partly subjective and partly objective. Women’s laziness and casualness in relationships can make men lose interest. Occasionally cooking a delicious meal, attending a wine party, going for a spa, or wearing a sexy nightgown can all grab a man’s attention in a new way.
If you do the above, it will have a significant impact on your war. Love becomes strong after crying, arguing, and hurting. When you can casually joke about the other person’s name one day, it signifies that you are the winner in this battle.