Will a man who has cheated truly return?

When a man cheats, a wife’s biggest dilemma is:

“Should I try to reconcile?”

After a man returns, the wife’s biggest confusion is: “Is he really back?” “Has he truly cut ties with the other person?”

For wives who have experienced betrayal, the biggest hurt isn’t discovering their husband’s infidelity, but feeling that he has returned, when in reality he hasn’t truly ended things with the other person.

For a wife who has been wounded by infidelity, this is a fatal blow.

So, whether you’re trying to reconcile or your husband has already returned home, only when you know if he’s truly back can you use the right approach to try and reconcile.

A man who temporarily returns home due to family pressure is completely different from a man who truly returns home.

The former is just perfunctory, playing both sides.

The latter withdraws both physically and emotionally from the outside world.

A truly repentant man will definitely show sincerity and guilt in his eyes.

To determine if a man has truly returned, you can start with the following:

1. Consistency in his words and actions

When you find that he always keeps his promises to you, and everything he says has a resolution, then he has truly returned.

The most important sign of a man’s return to the family is “consistency in words and actions.” If you find that he always uses one lie to cover another, then you should be alert.

A man who has truly returned to the family won’t easily make promises to his wife, but once he does, he’ll definitely keep them, and the results may even exceed your expectations.

2. Regularity in his daily routine

When a cheating man truly returns to the family, his daily routine will gradually become regular.

No more excuses for working late, no more tossing and turning at night, and fewer business trips.

When a man truly returns to the family, he will proactively inform his wife of his schedule, spend all his free time with his wife and children, and spend more and more time with his wife. He will also be more willing to stay at home, reducing the time and frequency of going out.

Even if he needs to come home late sometimes, to avoid his wife’s misunderstanding, he will proactively tell her where he is, who he is with, what he is doing, and approximately what time he will be home, to put her at ease.

His emotions will gradually stabilize. He won’t be unpredictable and won’t have extreme mood swings.

A man who has truly returned to the family will use his willpower to control his behavior, and won’t make excuses or try to evade. He will be willing to do a lot for you, willing to change, and gradually heal your wounds.

3. Willingness to share details of his life and work with you

He will gradually bring you back into his circle, reestablish his image, naturally integrate you into his social circle, and start actively sharing his life with you. He won’t be afraid for you to check his phone, and may even show it to you proactively. You will feel that he is very open-hearted.

He will do household chores with you, find opportunities to speak sweetly to you, engage in more emotional communication with you, and have more shared topics with you. Your every move will attract his attention, showing that the other person’s weight in his heart is diminishing, and he misses your kindness to him.

He won’t let you be worried or confused, his gaze won’t be evasive, and his words will be more resolute. That’s when he has truly returned.

4. Willingness to plan your future life together

When a cheating man truly returns, he will be more willing to discuss your future life with you.

He will start planning the children’s growth, the family’s development, and the future life of the two of you together.

Most importantly, you both believe that everything will get better, and he is willing to change for you and help you grow.

I really like the poem “Once Slow” by Mu Xin:

Once, the pace of life was slow

Car, horse, mail all slow

One life is enough to love one person

In the past, there were no mobile phones, and their longing was written in letters;

In the past, there were no diamond rings, and their love was proven by enduring commitment;

From the past to the present, they were sincere, loving only one person throughout their lives.

This is the love of the older generation.

At some point, we started to yearn for the love and marriage of the 80s and 90s. We often say that today’s life is too fast, love has become fast food, insipid and forgotten in an instant. But we forget that in today’s digital age, we should have our own unique way of starting love and managing marriage.

Writing this article is not to say that infidelity must be forgiven, but to hope that everyone can cherish their feelings.

Marriage is not easy, it needs nurturing, not betrayal.