After men cheat, why do relationships get worse with more quarrels, no communication with their wives, and a lack of trust?

Every attempt at communication ends in arguments.

When a man’s infidelity is discovered, it’s a moment when trust is shattered. Wives don’t dare to, and don’t know whether what’s said is true or false. When there’s no understanding, it leads to a “suspicious” attitude. Many men, when their infidelity is discovered, are afraid to be sincere and don’t dare to tell the truth; they like to lie and fabricate stories.

So, as a wife, how should you handle and manage this situation?

To handle this well, we need to understand the psychology of men after cheating, to help us judge and understand a man’s actions, to have insight, to understand both parties, and to take the initiative.

You need to know the 8 psychological reactions of cheating men.

(1) Psychological Reactions of Luck and Excitement

Cheating isn’t discovered, the affair isn’t exposed. All the actions are secretive, and this kind of relationship makes men feel very excited, and excitement can be alluring. It’s like riding a roller coaster, exciting and alluring.

When a stable and long-lasting marriage lacks excitement, it leads to the attraction of these feelings. Men generally have confidence and believe they can control the situation. A sense of luck makes them feel both safe and excited. But little do they know, women are detail-oriented, and a woman’s sixth sense is a natural skill. Lies are always exposed eventually.

(2) Fear and Guilt

When men are confident and believe they have everything under control, suddenly being discovered and confirmed by their wives is like falling from a tall building, it’s also like being on a roller coaster, which will make men feel fearful. Many wives may not know that after men’s infidelity is discovered, there are cigarettes everywhere, and they spend the whole night thinking. Men understand this feeling deeply.

After the feeling of fear, it turns into guilt and regret. They think about their family, although there aren’t many memorable points in the past, life was peaceful and the family was happy. They think about their wives and children, and the countless days of companionship before. Now, seeing their wives in pain and tears, men feel self-blame and guilt.

Some smart wives use men’s fear and guilt to make them return to the family immediately. Some wives, by provoking and insulting, make men’s guilty feelings disappear instantly.

(3) Angry Feelings

Why is there anger? After a man’s infidelity is discovered by his wife, many wives will directly question the man, asking why he cheated. At this point, no matter what the man says, trust is already lost. This leads to a situation where the wife becomes increasingly emotional and quarrelsome, and the man becomes increasingly impatient. As it escalates, the man will start shifting blame, saying that it’s the wife’s fault that he cheated.

(4) Treating the Mistress as a Partner

This is actually a period of insanity for cheating men, during this stage, they are very infatuated with the other woman. Because while they argue with you, the other woman understands and comforts them. Naturally, people tend to seek benefits and avoid harm, and if you were a man, who would you choose at this time? So, at this point, men and the other women become closer and quickly enter a passionate phase of the relationship.

(5) Psychological Pressure to Divorce

When he believes that the other woman is perfect and his wife isn’t, it’s when he’s aggressively pushing for a divorce. His feelings of guilt and fear are thrown to the back of his mind, and he only thinks about divorcing his wife. Of course, sometimes a man really wants a divorce, and sometimes it’s just a pretense. This requires judgment.

(6) Ambivalence

Some men want their wives while also wanting the other woman, wanting both. During the pressure for divorce, when men calm down, they also know that their children still need care, and their previous life needs to continue. But at this time, they also feel that the other woman isn’t much of a problem, so they start to waver and think that having both is the best solution.

(7) Fear of Not Being Forgiven by the Wife

Their affair with the other woman isn’t healthy or normal. It’s stimulating and fresh for the man and will quickly fade. Conflicts will arise quickly with the other woman, and many problems will appear. As contact and understanding are limited, only the good aspects of the other person are seen, but no one is perfect. So when conflicts with the other woman grow, this is when he wants to return. But because of the constant quarreling, anger, and emotional outbursts with his wife, their relationship is heavily affected. So even if he wants to return, he’s afraid his wife won’t forgive him.

(8) Unbearable Agony

If he wants to return, but his wife won’t let him, and he wants to continue with the other woman, but she’s not suitable for him, he will be in unbearable agony, wanting both but getting neither.

After reading this, you will surely be able to identify which stage your husband is in, and what kind of mentality he has.

Once you understand his mental processes, you can figure out what to do next.

As the saying goes, there’s nothing that can’t be resolved, it just depends on whether you resolve it or not. If you don’t know what to do, you can talk to me, and I hope I can help you.