Recently, a friend sent me a message:

She met her boyfriend in college, both each other’s first love. Despite family objections, they moved in together after graduation.

Living together in a cramped rental, they faced challenges. Both struggled to find jobs, enduring tough times.

Thinking their bond was strong from these shared hardships, six years into marriage, things changed.

They grew distant, frequent arguments over trivial matters. Feeling neglected, she thought he no longer loved her. Sometimes he felt the same.

Considering divorce this year, she questioned her decision.

It saddened me to hear this. I once admired their relationship.

Marriages evolve with time, people change. Some grow stronger, others falter.

Her once strong bond led to marital discord.

Perhaps, for lasting harmony in marriage, it’s not just about love, but mutual need.

Understanding Each Other’s Hearts

In a TV show “Love Defense Battle,” a woman wanted a divorce, her husband pleaded otherwise.

He asked for a reason. She replied, “You don’t understand.”

In marriage, women want their men to understand them, feeling cared for.

Women believe caring men understand their needs.

Their thought processes differ. Understanding each other’s hearts is key to meeting those needs, fostering harmony.

We all seek a life partner who truly understands us.

The Biggest No-No in Marriage: Selfishness

Selfishness, innate to humans, should have no place in marriage. Some grasp this, others don’t.

For instance, a neighbor’s aunt fell ill. Needing money, her husband objected, prioritizing a house payment over her sister’s health.

Failing to prioritize, he prioritized a house over a life, hurting his wife.

Selflessness is crucial for long-term benefits.

Sometimes, your selfishness hurts the ones in need, damaging relationships.

Learn to give without expecting in return, a valuable lesson in marriage.

Be There When Needed

A popular saying goes, “When I needed you, you were absent. Now that I stand tall, I no longer need you.”

In marriage, support your partner when needed. Understanding each other’s needs is vital.

Ignoring their needs can lead to irreparable damage, causing resentment and conflicts.

When your partner needs you, be there. Prioritize their needs over your own desires.

For a lasting, harmonious marriage, mutual support and companionship are essential.

In times of conflict, reflect on the issues and work towards understanding and solving them.