I once saw a slogan that said: “Girl in front of the screen, promise me, don’t fall in love.” When I read this, it struck a chord in my heart because it reminded me of a friend from many years ago.

Back then, she had just fallen in love and would post all sorts of lovey-dovey photos online every day, documenting every little detail of their relationship. I thought to myself, this woman must be head over heels in love.

I remember one time she said, “I won’t marry anyone else in this lifetime.” Maybe women in love have zero IQ, willing to give up her stable job and move to another city with her partner for the sake of love.

In the unfamiliar city, she continued to flaunt her love on Facebook. I thought to myself, this girl must be very happy. So every time I saw her updates, I would casually give them a like.

After a long time, her Facebook became quiet with no updates. It seemed unusual compared to the previous lovey-dovey posts. Out of curiosity, I opened her Facebook, but it was set to private.

Maybe it was for privacy reasons, so I didn’t think much of it. Three months later, she posted this: “5 years, returning you to the sea of people.”

Seeing this, my heart felt inexplicably sad. Why did two people who were once so in love end up like this?

After the breakup, she rarely posted updates. Later, I found out that it was because of this relationship that almost took her life.

Three months after the breakup, she felt like time was dragging on. To numb herself, she chose to use alcohol. During that time, she locked herself at home all day, not going out or seeing friends. In the end, she ended up in the hospital due to excessive drinking.

At that moment, she wanted to end her life in an attempt to win back this man. But in the end, it was all in vain because when a man doesn’t love you, he appears especially heartless.

At that time, the ones who worried about her the most were actually her family. Her mother even fell ill because of worrying about her. From that moment on, she decided that she couldn’t just fall apart like this. Seeing her family worried about her, she had already cried her heart out.

After a period of recuperation in the hospital, she started her life anew. Her Facebook was not as lively as before, and I knew she had started to take life seriously.

Last year, she got married. When she posted her wedding photos, I was surprised because compared to the past, she now looked even more stunning.

She used to be a slightly chubby girl, wearing glasses and speaking with a not-so-fluent accent. But now, her Facebook seemed like a completely different person, not only a goddess but also married to a good husband.

Now, she has a family and a career, living the life that many women envy.

Love is a spice of life, but it’s not a necessity. If two people can’t even feel basic happiness together, then love loses its original meaning.

I’ve seen a girl who gave up everything for a boy and a boy who worked hard to earn money, only to be disappointed in the end.

Love has too much uncertainty. Good love will bring you growth, not harm. Love is never a one-way street, but a mutual journey.

Life should be colorful and not bothered by unnecessary people and things.

I’ve seen a girl who was 30 years old and still unmarried, causing great concern at home. But she remained firm in her heart. Some people said, “If you’re 30 and still unmarried, most likely no one wants you.” Faced with gossip, she just smiled.

She said, “Life and love belong to me. If I always live in the mouths of others, how uncomfortable would that be? There are still many beautiful things in life worth pursuing. As for love, I believe there is someone waiting for me.”

This kind of open-minded girl is not uncommon. Those who live wonderfully are often alone, enduring the pain of being alone to feel the sweetness of being together. Love is like this. Before meeting someone, we must learn to live a fulfilling life alone. Only then, when we encounter love, will we feel that life is worth it.

When you have the ability to buy clothes you like, to travel abroad with your parents, and to stand confidently in front of another person, you will realize that life should be diverse.

I hope you fall in love with someone who has seen the world, not someone who is still ignorant of the world.

Besides love, we have friendship and family. Aside from work, we have travel. Interesting people are never afraid of the mundane aspects of life. We long for love because we all hope to meet someone who understands us. Simply put, in our lifetime, we just hope to find someone to laugh and eat with.

But in the pursuit of love, we need to be rational. A momentary promise does not represent eternity. Don’t give up self-improvement because of love, and don’t hurt yourself because of love. Life is worth it, promise me, don’t fall into the trap of love. Because besides love, there are many beautiful things happening in this world.