In relationships, many girls can be blinded by sweet love. Some romantic behaviors may not be genuine. If a girl blindly falls into it and reaches the stage of marriage, she may get hurt.
Today, let’s discuss with the sisters how to distinguish a man’s true feelings in a relationship. Remember, men who pretend to love you probably won’t give you these “things.”
Won’t give you genuine responses
I once saw an interview titled “What do you hope your boyfriend does if you get sick?” Many respondents in the early stages of love said they needed him to accompany them.
However, one respondent’s comment left a deep impression on me. She said, “Everyone is quite busy with their own work. Why should he come to buy medicine when I’m sick? If he can proactively pour me a cup of hot water to drink, I would find it very normal.”
In love, saying “I love you” every day doesn’t mean much. Hormones may give you a temporary feeling of love. But a man who truly loves you will not just give you moments of joy but will make you feel his presence genuinely.
So, what kind of response is considered genuine? Not “drink more hot water,” but “pouring you a cup of hot water”; not “Don’t be angry, I was wrong,” but “directly do what you think is right”; not “keep saying I love you,” but “willing to listen to your daily chatter.”
Won’t commit to a future with you
Men who pretend to love you often make easy promises but won’t fulfill them. They say nice things, but when it comes time to act, they show a lack of interest. They know that fulfilling promises comes with a high cost, while saying them only takes a few seconds.
Any easy promise is not as good as a genuine fulfillment.
A man who loves you will plan a future with you and fulfill his promises. After all, we are no longer at an age to just listen to love stories.
Won’t give you room to grow freely
A man who truly loves you will support your work and dreams. My friend, Sarah, told me that her boyfriend didn’t like her being a broadcaster, thinking it was chaotic and involved interacting with many people, requiring staying up late, and hoped she would resign.
Sarah thought maybe her boyfriend was concerned about her health, worried she might be deceived, and was considering whether she needed to quit. I was angry when I heard this. Being an online broadcaster is a normal job and not disgraceful at all. Her boyfriend was clearly expressing his bias under the guise of concern.
A man who truly cares about you will not ask you to change anything, especially in terms of career, dreams, and values. You don’t need to sacrifice yourself to please him. Just be yourself and pursue what you like.
Your true self is what he can accept. You might say it’s his way of showing love, but it’s actually a form of control. Liking someone should motivate each other to become better, willingly change from the heart, not be forced to change.
Won’t mediate well in the relationship between you and his parents
Good relationships lead to good marriages, and in marriage, women are most afraid of conflicts with their in-laws.
There is a saying that smart men will not let their wives be in a crisis in their relationship with their in-laws. They will be fair, diplomatic, and have a strong love for each other.
Men who pretend to love you will always make you compromise, even using lines like “after all, she’s my mom.” It’s important to note that emotional intelligence in handling in-law issues is crucial for men. What might have been a small matter could escalate into a conflict because of attitudes like “she’s my mom.”
If a husband constantly demands that you compromise, it seems like you are always the one making concessions. Such a man not only doesn’t love you but is also “filial” to a fault.
In a woman’s view, when facing in-law issues, she just needs someone to understand her emotions and situation, not someone who leaves her isolated in the family.
Therefore, men who are unwilling or reluctant to handle in-law relationships will hurt women.
Girls in relationships must not be blinded by sweet words. They should rationally discern whether the man truly loves them. If you encounter men who superficially pretend to love you, let go as soon as possible and start loving yourself properly.