Many people have always been asking whether there can be pure friendship between men and women.

This topic has always been debated with no clear answer. Some believe in it for their own reasons, while others don’t see it happening.

A talk show host once said, “If you want a platonic friend of the opposite sex, then marry them. After a few years, you’ll find it too pure, with no impure thoughts at all.”

The highest level of purity is transparency. Even if you stand in front of them dressed in transparency, they treat you as if you are transparent.

She once asked her husband, “Do you love me?” His response was, “Don’t say things that hurt our feelings.”

After being together for a long time, even saying “I love you” becomes too much of an effort, so they prefer to say, “My brother who sleeps on the bunk bed above me.”

Maintaining a spousal relationship may lead to jealousy and anger if the husband interacts with a female colleague. However, if they have a sibling-like relationship, this issue becomes much easier to handle.

Playfully teasing each other, “You’re quite charming, still able to attract female colleagues at this age.”

The highest level for a married couple is not tearing each other down, but rather teasing each other, even bringing up many memories related to past events on this topic and chatting happily all night long.

Life is truly amazing upon reflection. We once thought that love would last forever, with endless affection for each other. Yet, when two people actually live together, the best state turns out to be maintaining a lasting friendship.

Watching some elderly couples still getting jealous of each other can be tiring. Perhaps, by changing their mindset, they can live peacefully without unnecessary conflicts.

Isn’t it tiresome to talk about love and romance every day? Who still remembers various anniversaries after marriage, giving a hug before leaving, another hug before bedtime, and even a goodnight kiss?

Doesn’t this kind of life feel like acting? It’s better to show your true self, be completely open and honest, and revert back to being friends like siblings—straightforward and genuine.

If you can lead a satisfying life, why bother overanalyzing every little thought? Isn’t that kind of life exhausting?

A friend of mine, in the first few years of marriage, was constantly on edge, suspecting that her husband didn’t treat her as well as before, thinking that he no longer cherished her. So, she would pick fights over trivial matters every day.

Over time, both of them became exhausted, and they even considered living separately at one point.

During this separation, my friend suddenly felt she had her own space again and rediscovered herself.

For instance, when unable to sleep at night, she no longer had to lie in bed feeling neglected next to a snoring person. Instead, she could sit up, read a favorite book, or watch an old movie and fall asleep to beautiful music.

Gradually, she returned to her original self—the independent woman her husband admired, rather than constantly asking, “Do you love me?” with a look of despair.

My friend mentioned that maintaining separate rooms with her husband wasn’t the solution. It was during this process that she realized life is not just about love; there are many other important things to focus on.

After transitioning to a friendlier relationship with her husband, their bond improved significantly.

In the past, she would reluctantly put on a smile and endure her in-laws’ nagging whenever they visited. But since she lowered her expectations of her husband, he no longer forced her to do things she didn’t want to.

On weekends, they went their separate ways—he visited his parents, and she spent time with her friends. Of course, during festivals and special occasions, they still respected each other’s feelings and gave each other face.

When their friends had children, she and her husband clearly divided responsibilities in child-rearing. She directly told him what needed to be done instead of beating around the bush and making simple things complicated.

When a couple lives together like friends, there are no emotional entanglements, making it much easier to get along.

In reality, many married couples end up like “siblings” over time. However, some women can’t understand this and get deeply entangled in their emotions, making things more complicated than necessary.

Eventually, it reaches a point of no return, with no way to turn back.

Why do couples get married? Not to make life more difficult, but to make it better.

Many people misunderstand and complicate their once simple world, leading to the joys and sorrows of life.

Understanding the true meaning of marriage and treating your partner like a friend may lead to a truly fulfilling life.

“The most important thing between spouses is a friendship. Even if you can’t be close friends, you should at least be companions who respect each other. Compatibility and other factors are not as important.”

Only through understanding can there be mutual appreciation, attraction, support, and encouragement, leading to mutual love.

Couples enter marriage because of love, but many intertwine too many emotions, leading to increasing conflicts after marriage, eventually causing all problems to surface at once.

To prevent marriage from deviating from its original purpose, use the friendship between friends to replace the deep emotional ties.

After all, entering into marriage is about becoming a better version of yourself, not about binding each other with a piece of paper.

When couples can understand and respect each other, they mostly lead a happy and content life.