Someone once asked, “What is the most regrettable thing in love?” My first reaction was, why does love have to be regretful? Some love is not regretful, because as long as we have tried, the person we should regret in the end shouldn’t be us.

Everyone’s love is different, and the way people get along is also different. Love can make people feel like children again, or it can make people mature. But the former seems more beautiful, and the latter seems more cruel.

Love is an unknown gamble. Some people win, some people lose. When two people are together, there may be a lot of happiness, but once they leave, they become the most familiar strangers. Since we chose to leave, we should let go firmly and not be defeated by the past, so that we can live a better life.

The following letter is written to my ex-husband:

Do you still remember the scene when we first met? You were very shy, and your eyes never dared to meet mine. Later, you said I was beautiful and gentle, and that you were good at making women happy. I felt happy with you, even though you didn’t have much money at the time. I didn’t mind because I loved you.

During our romance, we lived in a small rental house. Every evening when I got off work, I would cook and wait for you. You once promised me that you would work hard to get us a big house, and I believed you.

So, I was willing to accompany you unconditionally, because I thought that one day you would fulfill your promise. In the third year of our relationship, we got married.

The day I married you, I was very happy because I felt like the happiest bride in the world. Although our love was not approved by our parents, I chose to follow my heart because I believed every word you said.

After three years of dating and seven years of marriage, we had two children together. I knew they were the result of our love, but after marriage, life wasn’t as easy as we had imagined. The necessities of life took over our love.

Our way of communicating with each other was not the same as before. Maybe life gave you too much pressure, and I don’t blame you. I’m just regretful why our feelings changed after marriage.

Before we got married, you promised to treat me well for a lifetime. At that time, I thought all my efforts were worth it when I heard you say that. When we first got together, we were so poor that we couldn’t even afford the rent, but we were still happy. At that time, I thought you were the best man in the world.

If it wasn’t for that text message, maybe I would still be in the dark. The man I trusted so much deceived me for 7 years. Perhaps you have long forgotten the promises you made to me, but it doesn’t matter anymore. We spent ten years together.

We experienced ups and downs, I went through a lot with you, and you brought me a lot of joy. In the end, maybe leaving each other is the best relief.

Ten years of love, thank you for giving me a false happiness. Even after leaving you, I still hope you can be happy, because this love has made me more mature and rational. You have taught me a lot. If you ask me if I regret it? My answer is no, because I have truly devoted myself to this relationship.

The reason I wrote this letter to you is because I want to give a perfect ending to our ten years of love. It’s a pity that I couldn’t accompany you to the end of life, but I am also very grateful for the growth you brought me.

I remember when we divorced, I smiled and asked you if you still loved me. You didn’t answer, just remained silent. I know that maybe you once loved me, but not anymore. Actually, I don’t necessarily need that answer, I just feel that we once had something beautiful.

Now, I no longer fret, and I don’t need to revolve around the hearth, around the family. Now, my heart has become stronger, and I see many things more lightly. I still wish you well, and I wish myself well.

I gave you the best of my youth for ten years, and I don’t regret it, because you brought me growth. Our fate can only come to this. I no longer have the strength to love you, but I am grateful for the beauty we once had. In the future, I will become a better version of myself, and I thank you for giving me a false happiness for ten years.

More or less, everyone will have some regrets in life, but we don’t need to regret the things we have worked hard for, because we have done our best. It only makes sense for two people to pursue each other, if the effort is mutual. One-sided maintenance will not lead to happiness in the end.

When in love, if you can hold hands, don’t stand shoulder to shoulder. When not in love, it’s best to part amicably. The things that once made us regretful will eventually be diluted by time.

If you have worked hard for love, then the one who should regret in the end shouldn’t be you. We should be grateful to those who have brought us growth. When two people are together, happiness is the most important. If you can’t even get the basic happiness and joy with someone, then such a relationship is meaningless.