Victor Hugo once said, “When a man pursues a woman, he is willing to sacrifice all freedom, only to later realize the importance of freedom.”

This applies not only to men but also to women.

When two people are just starting a relationship and still getting to know each other, they find each other very interesting.

At the beginning of a relationship, everything feels great. However, as time goes by, they may start to find each other less interesting and have fewer topics to talk about.

Especially as people reach middle age, they understand each other more and have more responsibilities at home. At this point, they may even fear disturbing each other.

Love, during the romantic period, is like an exciting date, but as it transitions to the realities of life, it may become mundane.

Although they still love each other, the pressures of reality may force them to keep a distance.

The best way for middle-aged couples is not to spend all their time together or constantly share everything with each other. Sometimes, giving each other space is the best approach.

Don’t restrict each other’s friendships.

In life, everyone has friends.

I remember when I was in high school, I visited my aunt’s house, whose daughter is my cousin. That year, my cousin got married.

After getting married, my cousin and her husband were always together. Sometimes when her husband wanted to hang out with his buddies, she wouldn’t allow it.

One day, my aunt called my cousin and said:

“A woman should not limit her partner’s friendships, especially in middle age.”

Men need their friends, and women need their girlfriends.

Young people have young friends, and middle-aged people have friends in a similar age group.

Once, a journalist asked:

“Do you mind if your husband makes friends you don’t like?”

She replied that she never minds because making friends is a matter of freedom.

Smart women, like her, never restrict their husband’s friendships.

Especially in middle age, having friends is essential in life. So, wise women don’t restrict their husbands from socializing or making friends.

Don’t criticize each other’s hobbies.

Everyone has hobbies that reflect their aspirations.

Some people like painting, dancing, singing, or writing. Hobbies help us release stress and can also be a source of achievement.

People cherish their hobbies. When someone appreciates our hobbies, we feel a connection. Conversely, criticism can be hurtful.

Therefore, spouses should not interfere with each other’s hobbies or criticize them.

Avoid baseless suspicions that trouble each other.

Middle age often brings emotional crises. Our physical abilities decline, and we may feel inferior to younger people.

Especially for women, reaching middle age can lead to insecurity. They may start baseless suspicions, causing turmoil in the relationship.

It’s crucial not to casually doubt each other and create unnecessary problems. Unfounded accusations can severely harm a person’s mental well-being, particularly when deeply in love.

Refrain from casually evaluating each other’s work.

In middle age, refrain from judging each other’s work.

I remember a couple in the neighborhood who used to get along well but started arguing frequently in middle age.

The man worked outside, while the woman was a homemaker. Despite their good relationship, work became a source of conflict.

Sometimes the man returned home stressed about work, but instead of comforting him, the woman criticized his job.

He eventually quit but struggled to find another job. When he did, the new job was more stressful and less fulfilling.

The woman continued to critique his work, not realizing the challenges he faced in the workplace.

Similarly, men should avoid criticizing their partner’s work issues.

The best way for middle-aged couples is to give each other space and not interfere, allowing both to feel comfortable. Middle-aged individuals, responsible for family and each other, must respect each other’s boundaries.

Sometimes, distance can enhance relationships. While in youth, we may be inseparable, middle age requires a different approach.