A friend messaged me:

“I’m really troubled lately. I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, and I’ve been changing throughout these years. No matter what I do, he still can’t see the good in me. Looking back at who I used to be and who I am now, I feel like I’m no longer the same person. I’ve indeed changed a lot, but my boyfriend is drifting further away from me.”

This friend and her boyfriend were very close at the beginning. She was the one who pursued him.

While it’s common for one person to take the lead in the early stages of a relationship, if only one person keeps giving and changing quietly later on, the relationship becomes uneven.

The key in a relationship is equality and mutual investment.

Women should know that the best way to keep a man is not by constantly changing themselves, but by staying true to who they are.

Being yourself is the most beautiful and confident thing a woman can do!

Have Your Own Circle of Friends

As a woman, it’s important to have your own circle of friends.

Some women, once in a relationship, prioritize their partner over friends, neglecting their friendships and spending all their time with their boyfriends.

Men can be strange sometimes. A man might start pursuing a woman who ignores him, putting her first.

If a woman always puts the man first, he may start taking her for granted over time.

There’s a song lyric I heard a few years ago:

“The unattainable is always stirring, the favored have no fear.”

A person’s mindset determines a relationship. When you think you’ve got someone wrapped around your finger, that’s when you might overstep boundaries.

So, women shouldn’t revolve everything around being a girlfriend. Having your own circle of friends shows men that you’re charming and have a life beyond them.

If you want a man to see your worth, let him know that many people treat you well.

Have Your Own Hobbies

A professor once said during my university days:

“You must have your own hobbies because one day you’ll realize you’re the only one striving silently.”

Everyone needs a hobby that reflects their passion, dreams, and emotions.

Sometimes, others may not understand you. When you’re feeling down, some might mock you or find you irritating when you share your troubles.

That’s why having a hobby is crucial. Instead of turning to a man when something happens, focus on your hobby and express your emotions through it.

A person with hobbies can turn their emotions into talent and create a career they love.

When you express your emotions differently, you become intriguing and successful in the eyes of others.

A woman with hobbies naturally exudes charisma.

“To be myself, indifferent to the world.”

When you have something you’re passionate about, others become insignificant.

This is when you’re most attractive, and men see you as unique.

Stick to Your Principles and Boundaries

When you have principles and boundaries, others will respect you and hold you in high regard.

Men must have principles and boundaries in business dealings, and women should have them in relationships and other aspects of life.

Some women let love blind them, allowing men to push their limits repeatedly, ultimately becoming captives.

Women must understand that if a man truly loves you, he won’t hold you back but help you grow.

A woman without principles and boundaries often lacks respect and genuine love from men.

Don’t Lose Yourself

Women should never lose themselves for anyone. Men are with you because they like you for who you are, for being different.

Imagine if a woman loses herself, the person the man fell for will be gone.

Men can be contradictory. They want women to change for them, but when women do, they question the change.

Women don’t need to change for men. Sometimes, changing displeases them.

Women who lose themselves in love usually end up unhappy, while those who know their boundaries captivate men.

Love isn’t everything for women. They should never lose themselves, continuously improve, and maintain independence and charm to attract men.

Men may like obedient women, but when a woman agrees with everything, she appears thoughtless and lacking personality.

Women should never compromise themselves. Life is tough, especially in relationships where women often lack security. Self-assurance is key, and women must strive to be independent and attractive to keep men voluntarily by their side.