As time progresses, the reference point for love is also changing. Sometimes we have to admit that some couples’ relationships grow stronger as they overcome challenges, while others are as fragile as plastic and fall apart at the slightest conflict.
The quality of a relationship depends on the sincerity of both parties. They say, “True colors show in times of trouble.” Without enduring the trials and tribulations of life and long-term companionship, the authenticity of the relationship is hard to prove. Many people often assume that a couple’s relationship is good, but a small conflict in life can destroy the marriage.
Unexpected divorces are often due to shallow feelings, with at least one person overestimating their position in the other’s heart.
In a marriage, one fears that what was once love will end up being just a melodrama of emotions. In this day and age, such emotional dramas seem to be increasingly common. The reasons for divorce are not always what they seem.
There’s a divorce case that many couples should contemplate. I encountered this case in the afternoon, and I want to briefly discuss it.
A Mistake that the Wife Couldn’t Accept
A few days ago, a couple spent $12,000 to buy 300 cycling helmets to resell. They expected to make a profit of around $8,000, which exceeded their combined monthly income.
However, the helmets were delivered two days later than expected, and by the second day of receiving the helmets, the market for them had plummeted. The couple had not anticipated this sudden turn of events and found themselves stuck with all the helmets.
Even selling at cost price did not attract buyers. Selling at a lower price would incur significant losses, with a loss of $13 for every helmet sold.
The couple attempted to return the helmets to the supplier, but the latter refused as it was a fair transaction without any breach of contract, based on the previous two successful transactions for a total of 300 helmets.
Feeling frustrated, they knew they were in the wrong. They should have accepted their loss, but they were unwilling to bear it. The couple quarreled, and the situation escalated.
The wife, unable to contain her resentment, demanded a divorce during the argument and even resorted to physical violence. Not only did she scratch her husband’s face, but she also smashed the television at home.
The husband was shocked by his wife’s extreme reaction. He couldn’t understand what had come over her, and it was about to get worse.
Wife Leaves Home After Argument
In this case, the wife blamed her husband for not cutting his losses, resulting in a financial setback for the family. Life was already difficult, and the sudden loss was unbearable for her.
The husband, feeling unjustly accused, retorted, “I had already warned you that the price might drop at any time. You were too greedy and made me buy more. How can you blame me?”
Initially, it was just an accidental mistake, and the couple could have gotten over it after a few days of quarreling, considering the relatively small loss. They never expected the wife to leave home and go to her ex-boyfriend, wanting to marry him.
The financial loss signified the breakdown of their marriage. After meeting with her ex-boyfriend, the wife had no intention of returning, asking the husband to forget about her.
The husband was at a loss. He didn’t want to part ways, but the wife was resolute about leaving him.
He said, “After our argument that night, she said she didn’t want to be with me anymore. She packed her bags and left. I thought she went to her parents’ place. I didn’t take it seriously, as the loss from the 300 helmets wasn’t significant. But the next morning, when I went to her parents’ house, I found out that she hadn’t gone there. I saw her post on social media, saying, ‘Farewell to the past, hello to love. My man, I’m here for you.’”
The husband saw the post, which included a photo of his wife with her ex-boyfriend. This completely shook him, and he desperately tried to call her, but she avoided his calls. He spent two days searching for her, crying several times out of worry.
Tiny Conflicts Leading to Major Consequences
In his account, the husband expressed his grievances, “It’s all my fault for being too greedy. I regret my actions now. A few months ago, I missed out on the opportunity with masks, then with herbal medicine. Finally, when the chance came with the helmets, I didn’t want to miss it. Others can make a living by their abilities, so why can’t I earn some money?”
“Who doesn’t want a better life? I had to strive for our livelihood. I made a profit of over $8,000 from two successful helmet deals. I was thrilled after enjoying success twice, and my wife praised me as her hero.”
“I never expected to suffer a loss on the third deal. Not only did I fail to profit, but I also lost three to five thousand dollars. I’m not afraid of the loss; I can bear it all. What I fear is losing my wife.”
“My family’s financial situation is not great. We’ve been married for less than a year (without official registration). To pay her family’s dowry, my family borrowed a lot of money from relatives. We’ve held a traditional ceremony, but we haven’t registered our marriage, nor do we have children.”
“I finally married her, but my mistake has left her deeply disappointed. She says I’ve broken her heart. She even threatened to divorce me if I couldn’t recover from the loss.”
“I had no choice but to bear all the responsibility alone, and my parents helped cover the losses. I never expected her to change her mind. She said even if I recover the loss and don’t incur any debts, she still wants a divorce.”
“In just three days, our relationship is on the brink of ending! I can’t express my grievances. I haven’t slept well for three days, and she still hasn’t returned.”
The wife accused him of being incompetent, saying she regretted marrying him and was glad they hadn’t registered their marriage or had children. She wanted to start anew and planned to register with her ex-boyfriend in a few days.
“I regret not registering our marriage. Now she wants to marry her ex-boyfriend. I don’t understand what’s going on. I’ve been tormented by the helmets, and now I’m about to lose such a good wife. What should I do if she registers with her ex-boyfriend?”
Marital Conflicts Are Not Simple
In the husband’s narration, the wife mentioned that she would register with her ex-boyfriend in a few days, work in another city with him, and never return. Even the husband’s in-laws couldn’t persuade their daughter to come back.
The wife’s parents had given up on intervening and left the young couple to handle it themselves. They mentioned that if the couple couldn’t reconcile, they would only receive half of the $130,000 dowry, as divorce was the responsibility of both parties. They couldn’t believe that their obedient daughter, who never caused any trouble, would leave her husband.
The man felt helpless, almost in tears.
He said, “I don’t want to leave her. We had planned to register our marriage on May 21, but she left early because of the helmets. With all that has happened, will she ever come back?”
This is where the man’s story ends, and at the moment, he feels helpless. Despite the possibility of reclaiming the dowry, what he truly desires is his wife’s heart. He wouldn’t find happiness even if he got the dowry back.
It’s often said that Rome wasn’t built in a day, and the same applies to relationship issues.
Do not underestimate minor conflicts between spouses. Many times, significant marital problems stem from minor conflicts. Many people have already mentally checked out of the relationship and are just waiting for an opportunity to leave at the slightest inconvenience.
The man’s experience shows this. Even if the helmets didn’t result in a loss, the same outcome would have eventually materialized, as his wife’s heart had already strayed. The problems in a marriage may seem simple, but they are often not.
Indecisive People Don’t Deserve Love
The man said, “I’ve exercised a lot of restraint. I’d rather suffer silently than have a falling-out with her family. I just want her to come back and marry me. I’m willing to overlook all her mistakes. But if she continues to pressure me and thinks I’m weak, I don’t know what I might do…”
People often say that being together is a matter of fate. Rejection is acceptable, but deceit has no place in relationships. Some individuals are entangled with their exes, which ultimately harms both themselves and their partners. Regardless, insincere individuals will not find love. Even her ex-boyfriend won’t genuinely love her.
In a marriage, if two people can’t make it work, they should part amicably instead of leaving in a heartless manner. Such behavior is hurtful, and groundless animosity has no place in a relationship. Overstepping boundaries might lead to unbearable consequences.