I think Haruki Murakami’s words really capture what it feels like to like someone.
“I tell you I like you, not necessarily to be with you. I just hope that in the future, when you encounter lows in life, don’t lose heart. At least once, someone was attracted by your charm, once, and will be in the future.”—Haruki Murakami
At first, I thought, “Wow, this kind of liking is quite noble and nice. It would be great to have someone quietly like me too!”
But deep down, I actually don’t like it. If you like someone, you should definitely pursue boldly and be together, right? What’s the point of this aimless and fruitless liking? Just passing the time?
When we were young, facing love, it was more about the ferment of youthful hormones. Confessing on the playground; flirting in the back corner of the classroom; cuddling tightly under the dormitory building. In those youthful years, no one wanted to think about what this liking could bring to the other person. As long as we were together, even for just one more minute, it was all happiness…
When we saw this sentence when we were young, we would just smile and maybe think in our hearts, is this pursuing without being accepted, comforting oneself in reverse? It seems that even Haruki Murakami couldn’t win over that girl…
Until you meet someone who is willing to be with you, but can’t be together for various reasons…
When you are together, you are very happy, you will do many things, say many heartfelt words, occasionally argue but quickly make up, and set some small rules for the two of you, such as: must resolve the argument on the same day, not allowed to go to bed with resentment… There are many things you know, as long as you say it, the other person will definitely want to do it with you…
When you meet someone like this, you will definitely understand the latter part of what Haruki Murakami said: just hope that in the future, when you encounter lows in life, don’t lose heart, at least once, someone was attracted by your charm, once, and will be in the future.
The satisfaction this person brings you, the confidence to face life, and the sincere non-loneliness towards the world, is the unparalleled value of this liking.
How many times have we doubted ourselves, thinking, “Is there something wrong with me? Am I doing something wrong? Am I just not likable? How many times, in the quiet of the night, have we asked ourselves, why am I always alone? Why, even though I did what they said, do they still not like me? Why do I have to face so much alone…
When you are alone facing the world, we will all feel lost and inevitably doubt and dislike ourselves…
At this time, you can think of having someone who is willing to do anything with you, unconditionally agree with you, and just be there with you for no reason…
Would you think like this: “So what if not everyone likes me? There are people who do like me. If they don’t like me, it just means we are not on the same page. It’s not all my fault. If they don’t like me, I don’t like them either, so what’s the big deal…
I think there may have been a girl who gave Haruki Murakami the confidence of this liking… (Only when you feel it, can you understand the greatness of this liking, and express it)
Every expression that touches the soul about liking is fortunate to encounter this beautiful emotion.
Perhaps I shouldn’t say that the liking in Haruki Murakami’s words is so noble, but should thank the girl who gave Haruki Murakami this liking, you have given the confidence to like this aspect of life and not lose heart in the face of lows.
Your liking will bring unparalleled confidence to others. Be bold, go like someone, like life, and like this world!