Ma Yili said:

“Because of love, we don’t give up. Emotions are the driving force to solve all problems.”

Many people are blinded by love at the beginning, having full confidence in their partner, thinking that everything can be resolved.

However, just like Ma Yili, they will eventually become disillusioned and may even get divorced.

Women tend to love men more and more in a relationship, while men tend to drift away from women.

Some people, when young, think about being with their loved one all day, and despite the pressure, they can still find time to accompany their partner.

However, as time passes, everything changes, including love.

The man who was tolerant and generous when young becomes stricter with age, and the man who used to pamper women like children no longer does so.

The requirements of retirees looking for a partner also become stricter. As people age, they may become more indifferent to certain things, but at the same time, they become more demanding in other aspects.

As people grow older, some may not only change their attitude towards their loved ones but also their standards for finding a partner.

So, why are retirees so picky when looking for a partner? It’s usually due to these three reasons:

You’ve Met Many People, and Your Standards Have Risen

In the variety show “Love Guardian War,” Tu Lei once told a female guest:

“If you still love the man in front of you after many years, that’s true love. As people age, their perspectives change, and what you think is everything now may not be the case six or seven years later. You think being cramped in a small rental apartment with your partner is happiness, but it won’t last. Everything is subject to the erosion of time.”

If someone deeply loved someone in school, it doesn’t mean they truly loved each other or that they would have a future together.

Many people date in school, but after entering society, they quickly change their minds. This is because they’ve met many people, and their standards have risen. They know what they want, and as they age, they become more confident in following their hearts.

A few years ago, I chatted with my grandfather, and he said:

“I’ve lived a lifetime, and I realized that the person I deeply loved wasn’t worthy of me.”

This doesn’t mean my grandfather is a bad person; it just means that as people age, they may find that some things they once held dear are no longer important.

Just like how someone we deeply love can become insignificant after experiencing many things and meeting many people.

Because You’re Too Familiar, You’re Uninhibited

Guo Jingming said:

“Sometimes, love is a kind of harm. Cruel people choose to harm others, while kind people choose to harm themselves.”

After Mr. Wang retired, he was very picky when looking for a partner. One day, he went to a square dance and met a beautiful auntie. They danced together and eventually started visiting each other’s homes, and their children agreed to their relationship.

Just as they were about to confirm their relationship, Mr. Wang said:

“I have three requirements for my partner: First, I manage my own money, and it has nothing to do with you; second, I want to dance with other women, and you shouldn’t interfere; third, don’t ask too much about our children’s affairs.”

The other party felt that Mr. Wang had changed and didn’t dare to agree to be with him.

Sometimes, when two people are too familiar with each other, men may say whatever they want, becoming stricter because they feel that they’ve already said everything.

However, when men say these things, women may feel uncomfortable and unhappy, regardless of what stage they’re in. Women always crave love and true love from men, without any hidden motives.

You’re Not Afraid of Being Left Behind After Retirement

There’s a song that says:

“What you can’t get is always disturbing, and being favored has no fear of being abandoned…”

This classic song lyric seems to fit every stage of life.

When a man can’t get a woman, he’ll think about her day and night, feeling like he can’t let her go.

However, when a man reaches a certain age, he has a steady income and retirement benefits, and the pressure of making a living decreases. He has more choices and is more confident in his own heart.

In the past, people might settle for someone to spend their life with, but now, with a more comfortable life, they can be more demanding.

When one’s material conditions are better, they can stand taller.

Retirees are picky when looking for a partner because they have more choices and are more confident in their own hearts. They’re not afraid of being left behind because they can always find someone else.