Some people say that chatting with a girl for a long time can easily make her develop feelings for you. Is this true?
When someone chats with you every night, you’ll develop a certain level of emotional dependence. As you get to know each other better, you may feel a sense of emptiness when she doesn’t reply to your messages or calls promptly. As the communication deepens, and you move from simple conversations to understanding each other, the distance between the two of you gradually diminishes, and feelings start to develop. The more topics you discuss, the more interested she becomes in you; otherwise, you wouldn’t be able to chat for so long.
Perhaps initially, you and she were just passing the time with casual conversations, but as you continued, you discovered shared hobbies and topics. Each conversation became enjoyable, and your interaction became very harmonious. Over time, people are emotional, and prolonged exposure can lead to the development of feelings. This emotional attachment adds a hint of ambiguity to the relationship, making the feelings more intimate, and you’ll gradually find yourself developing feelings for her.
During conversations, we all want to present our best selves to the other person. We create an image that the other person will like, and when she’s happy, we share in her joy, and when she’s upset, we console her and make her feel better. Gradually, she starts to see you as the best man in the world for her, and her feelings for you continue to grow. At this point, she becomes dependent on you and gets used to having you around.
Also, if two people can chat well, it’s inevitable that they have common interests, personal experiences, or similar values. You’ll have some common ground, and your interactions will have a level of understanding that others lack. This kind of understanding makes you feel like you’re on the same wavelength. It’s rare to meet someone who understands you so well and is such a perfect match. As we chat, we get to know each other better, and as we discover our compatibility, we begin to imagine everything that could happen between us, and naturally, feelings start to develop, and we become unable to break free from them.
Furthermore, when we chat with different people, the topics of conversation vary. We can’t use the same chatting style with all girls, and we can’t have the same depth of interaction with everyone. As we delve deeper into the conversation, we inevitably relax and reveal information about ourselves or others to the other person. This is known as “self-disclosure” in psychology.
Research shows that self-disclosure is an effective way to open up, understand each other better, strengthen emotional bonds, and make friendships or intimate relationships more solid. However, if we reveal our thoughts and feelings and don’t receive acceptance or a positive response, it can make us feel hurt and upset. Therefore, not all conversations lead to positive chemistry.
Therefore, the process of chatting is a form of self-disclosure. If one person responds positively and the other doesn’t, it’s one person’s monologue. If you’re willing to talk, I’ll listen carefully, and that’s when our story begins.