As Guy said, “You don’t understand love, you don’t understand life.”
There’s a saying: “Men chase women across mountains, while women chase men across layers of silk.” The fundamental reason for this result is that men and women express love in different ways. Men are more direct, while women are more reserved. It’s often this reserve that makes men unable to grasp the situation. Even if a woman deeply loves a man, she may not take the initiative to say it out loud.
In real life, there are four main reasons why a woman who loves you may not take the initiative to contact you:
Fear of Rejection
When facing love, everyone is timid. It’s precisely because of love that they don’t dare to speak out.
In reality, many people love someone in a friendly way. When a girl doesn’t take the initiative to contact you, it’s often because she’s afraid of being rejected.
Let me share a story about a friend:
I’ve known him for a year, and we met through a mutual acquaintance. We added each other on WeChat, but we rarely chatted, and we only occasionally had dinner together.
He had never been in a relationship before, so he was a bit awkward when interacting with girls. Although he wasn’t as romantic as other men, his stability and reliability deeply touched me.
Many times, when facing his invitations, I wasn’t very proactive either. Even if I liked him, I didn’t dare to directly and boldly express my feelings.
Now, our relationship is quite awkward, and I don’t know how to handle these emotions.
In reality, many people may have experienced similar awkwardness. Girls are generally more reserved, so when facing emotions, they’re not as direct as men. If you encounter such a girl, please cherish her.
Parental Influence
Emotions are not just about two people; when it comes to marriage, the acceptance of both families is also crucial.
Xiaoli is 25 years old and has been in a relationship for five years. They plan to get married this year, but because her boyfriend is from another region, her parents strongly oppose their marriage.
Xiaoli’s heart was troubled by her parents’ bias against her boyfriend. She directly told her parents, “What’s wrong with being from another region? Why can’t I marry someone from another region?” Because of this, Xiaoli’s parents were very angry and even slapped her. Xiaoli was heartbroken.
Facing her parents’ strong opposition, Xiaoli’s boyfriend didn’t know what to do. He called Xiaoli many times, but Xiaoli didn’t know how to respond, so she could only turn off her phone. During that time, Xiaoli was very frustrated and locked herself at home, doing nothing.
In reality, many factors can hurt the emotions between two people. If they can’t understand each other, their contradictions will only increase.
Waiting for You to Take the Initiative
Girls express love in a reserved way. When a woman deeply loves you but doesn’t take the initiative to contact you, it’s often because she’s waiting for you to take the initiative. Since girls’ faces are relatively thin, they can’t be too enthusiastic.
So, in front of a boy, they naturally can’t lose face. If you really like the other person, as a man, you should take the initiative to express your feelings. Don’t wait until it’s too late and you regret it.
When a girl likes you, if you take the initiative to confess, the development of your emotions will be faster.
You Haven’t Given Her Enough Security
As Boccaccio said, “Pure love is a positive factor in life, a source of happiness.”
In reality, everyone is hesitant in love, especially for a girl. When they fall in love, if they can’t get stable love and being loved, their dependence on you will decrease.
Why do some girls become very sensitive in love? It’s because they’re afraid of losing the love they have.
When a girl knows she’s being loved steadily, her attitude towards you will be very different.
So, as a man, giving your woman enough security will make your emotions more stable. Don’t let a girl who loves you lose hope, because some people will never come back once they’re gone.
As Roland said, “Without a deep love, life is like a waste.”
Emotions are precious to each of us. In this world, it’s not easy to find someone who truly suits you, and encountering love is also a kind of luck.
When we truly love someone, our emotions become fragile, so we need to give each other security. When a woman loves you deeply but doesn’t contact you, it’s often because of the above four reasons.
If you two truly love each other, don’t miss the opportunity. Learn to cherish every emotion, and your love will become more stable, and happiness will come to you.
I hope everyone can be blessed with love and find the right person.